Welcome to Rayden's page. Here you will find a story of our sons journey with Spina Bifida. There have been many challenges and struggles through the years but it's been worth it! I have tried to keep this blog updated. It might be easier to navigate by using the side bar and looking for specific dates or posts. You can even use the search engine for something specific. I welcome comments as well.
Tuesday, December 11, 2018
Wednesday, October 31, 2018
October 31, 2018 "Postponed surgery"
Rayden's urologist wanted to get a renal ultrasound BEFORE surgery because it would be quite a while before he would allow someone to be poking on his abdomen after surgery. So we checked into Ronald McDonald House yesterday afternoon before the appointment. I tried to make the best of our afternoon by playing with everything there. He certainly seemed to enjoy himself. He even made a new little friend, JD. But I believe his most favorite part was that he "had the power" wrapped around his neck to open all the doors.
We were able to sleep in and play a little more this morning because the hospital called and postponed his check in time to 10:30 am. It was really nice to have our normal support group there to help us through this long six hour surgery. (Nanny and Papa Bradley, Alex, Nanny Jane, Patsy, Debbie, and Pastor Brad) Rayden actually enjoyed the more than 30 minute wait until they took us back to pre-op. He walked around playing and talking. We try very hard to keep him from being frightened of the hospital. He walked more than 74 steps in this video. He took at least 10 before I even started recording!!
When they finally took us back to pre-op Rayden knew something was wrong. He didn't want to change his clothes or weigh. He didn't want anyone touching him. The pain team were the first people to come into the room. They immediately started talking about placing an epidural. I was shocked by this because Dr. Vergun had mentioned he couldn't have one because of his Spina Bifida. They continued talking about it and asked a few more questions. Somehow I mentioned that he was sick last week with an upper respiratory thing with fever and was on antibiotics, tylenol and motrin. They quickly looked at each other and said they had to go get the head anesthesiologist. I knew something was wrong. When he came in he listened to Rayden's chest and lungs. Even though he didn't hear anything he didn't feel comfortable with going on with the surgery but he needed to consult with Dr. Vergun.
She came in and explained that they were worried about losing his airway! She stated that any lingering respiratory issues could cause more swelling preventing them from taking the breathing tube out after it had been in for more than six hours. This could cause death or an ICU stay at best!! She explained that it certainly wasn't worth losing his life and we agreed!!! We postponed the surgery until December 13.
We feel like God had a hand in all of this. Apparently it just wasn't the right time. We praise God for intervening. We praise God for giving us a surgical team that are not 'cut happy' and put the child's wellbeing BEFORE the dollar!
Monday, October 22, 2018
October 22, 2018 Hips and Feet Surgical consult
We met with Dr. Anna Vergun today. She said she has definitely done her research on Rayden. She has consulted with a ton of surgeons about him this past year. She very recently spoke with Jim Wright from Toronto while in Palestine. She said he is one of the leading publishers on Spina Bifida kids. They looked at his x-rays and talked about him a lot. He said in certain kids it still makes sense to do the hip surgery despite the fact that there are recent publications against it. He said if the patient has really good ambulatory potential and a clear hip problem then it will still be beneficial. All we have at this point is expert advise and she really trusts him the most. He said to do it. They believe the probability rate of success for him is extremely high. She ignores the hip issues in most spina bifida kids but she hasn't had a good feeling about ignoring it with Rayden. She, and everyone else she consulted, feel that since he has such strong cuadricep muscles they will be able to hold the correction in place so he can walk for decades instead of becoming wheelchair dependent due to arthritis pain. Hip dysplasia even causes pain when transferring into the wheel chair. NO child as young as Rayden with hip dysplasia has pain, that develops when he gets older. Hip dysplasia has to do with pressures inside the joint and when he walks without coverage it will be putting a tremendous amount of pressure on a small surface area and that turns into arthritis very quickly. This is the pain we are trying to prevent.
There are 3 proposed surgeries at once. They are called Femoral Osteotomy, Pelvic Acetabular Osteotomy, and Bilateral Clubfoot Release. These surgeries will take over six hours combined. Even through Rayden has already had 10 surgeries, he has never been put to sleep for more then 2 1/2 hours. Six hours is an extremely long time!
Femoral Osteotomy: This procedure will be done on both legs. They will make two incisions on both sides. Then cut the femur (thigh bone) and point it more inward so that the head of the femur goes right into the middle of the socket not up and out. Then they will re-attach the bones with a plate that will hold the bone into an 'L' position. One part of the 'L' goes in the femoral head and the other part sits on the outside of the bone. Hopefully the hips would then start to grow CURVING around the joints instead of going upward like it is right now. This surgery will make the legs shorter by about a centimeter but she will make sure they are both the same length. The plate will have to be removed a year later to prevent femoral fractures. The legs will continue to grow but the hardware will not so it may cause the bone to shatter years later.
Pelvic Acetabular Osteotomy: He needs a pelvic osteotomy on the left but not the right. The cup on the left side is so steep that it's not going to remodel and come down enough so she is going to do the pelvic on it as well. He will have a separate incision in the bikini line where she cuts the bone just above the cup and fold the lip down. She will then use some of his own bone to fill in the space remaining after she reshapes it.
Bilateral Clubfoot Release: Dr. Vergun said she will make an incision in the feet that go all the way around. She will take all joint capsules away from bones releasing the capsules. All the ways that the bones are joined will be taken apart and put together the way she wants them. She will place pins in his feet to hold the bone in the correct position. These pins will be sticking OUT of his feet and casts. They will be removed in six weeks. She said she will not fuse the joints but she may need to scoop out some of the bones on the inside to make a bone smaller so it comes over better. His fibula bone is so far back behind the foot that she may need to use more bone from other places to make the correction work. The feet will take the longest amount of time to correct during the surgery. Dr. Vergun believes this correction will prevent the clubbed feet from relapsing for a very long time. She says he may want a tweaking of the feet when he is older but nothing expected sooner.
Michael and I are so worried about his pain. I know he cannot feel his feet but he can feel the muscles surrounding his hips. She says that while he is asleep the anesthesiologist will watch his heart rate and tell her how much pain he is in. That way she will know what to expect post op. Most people get an epidural for this surgery but that will not work on Rayden because of the spina bifida but she will have a pain team on board as well. The hospital stay is dependent upon his pain tolerance. He may go home the next day or, if he is in a lot of pain, it may be as much as five days.
Upon release: Rayden will be coming home in short leg casts instead of the spica cast. She doesn't feel that she needs to protect the hip surgery on him with a cast. He cannot bear ANY weight on his feet or hips for six weeks. We have to be extra careful not to hit the pins sticking out of his feet so we don't mess up the correction. Therefore, she doesn't want him to go to school, or anywhere actually, to be on the safe side. This may also prevent his exposure to infection. She doesn't think it will take him long to get back to walking once his feet and hips have healed. A surprising twist is that she believes this surgery will allow him to walk WITHOUT THE TWISTER CABLES!
Of course this is a TREMENDOUS amount of work to do on a three year old child. It reminds me of the bionic man, "We can rebuild him." Yes, we are happy with Rayden just the way he is, but if God gave these surgeons the knowledge to correct his deformities I feel like we must take advantage of that to make his future as bright as we can.
There are 3 proposed surgeries at once. They are called Femoral Osteotomy, Pelvic Acetabular Osteotomy, and Bilateral Clubfoot Release. These surgeries will take over six hours combined. Even through Rayden has already had 10 surgeries, he has never been put to sleep for more then 2 1/2 hours. Six hours is an extremely long time!
Femoral Osteotomy: This procedure will be done on both legs. They will make two incisions on both sides. Then cut the femur (thigh bone) and point it more inward so that the head of the femur goes right into the middle of the socket not up and out. Then they will re-attach the bones with a plate that will hold the bone into an 'L' position. One part of the 'L' goes in the femoral head and the other part sits on the outside of the bone. Hopefully the hips would then start to grow CURVING around the joints instead of going upward like it is right now. This surgery will make the legs shorter by about a centimeter but she will make sure they are both the same length. The plate will have to be removed a year later to prevent femoral fractures. The legs will continue to grow but the hardware will not so it may cause the bone to shatter years later.
Pelvic Acetabular Osteotomy: He needs a pelvic osteotomy on the left but not the right. The cup on the left side is so steep that it's not going to remodel and come down enough so she is going to do the pelvic on it as well. He will have a separate incision in the bikini line where she cuts the bone just above the cup and fold the lip down. She will then use some of his own bone to fill in the space remaining after she reshapes it.
Bilateral Clubfoot Release: Dr. Vergun said she will make an incision in the feet that go all the way around. She will take all joint capsules away from bones releasing the capsules. All the ways that the bones are joined will be taken apart and put together the way she wants them. She will place pins in his feet to hold the bone in the correct position. These pins will be sticking OUT of his feet and casts. They will be removed in six weeks. She said she will not fuse the joints but she may need to scoop out some of the bones on the inside to make a bone smaller so it comes over better. His fibula bone is so far back behind the foot that she may need to use more bone from other places to make the correction work. The feet will take the longest amount of time to correct during the surgery. Dr. Vergun believes this correction will prevent the clubbed feet from relapsing for a very long time. She says he may want a tweaking of the feet when he is older but nothing expected sooner.
Upon release: Rayden will be coming home in short leg casts instead of the spica cast. She doesn't feel that she needs to protect the hip surgery on him with a cast. He cannot bear ANY weight on his feet or hips for six weeks. We have to be extra careful not to hit the pins sticking out of his feet so we don't mess up the correction. Therefore, she doesn't want him to go to school, or anywhere actually, to be on the safe side. This may also prevent his exposure to infection. She doesn't think it will take him long to get back to walking once his feet and hips have healed. A surprising twist is that she believes this surgery will allow him to walk WITHOUT THE TWISTER CABLES!
Of course this is a TREMENDOUS amount of work to do on a three year old child. It reminds me of the bionic man, "We can rebuild him." Yes, we are happy with Rayden just the way he is, but if God gave these surgeons the knowledge to correct his deformities I feel like we must take advantage of that to make his future as bright as we can.
Saturday, October 20, 2018
October 20, 2018 "Rayden's 4th Birthday Party"
Rayden had a fish themed birthday party. I believe his favorite part of the day was helping mommy, daddy, Alex, and Granny make the food. We all wore aprons and allowed him to get right in there.
Thursday, October 18, 2018
Wednesday, October 3, 2018
October 3, 2018 Independent steps
Rayden has really started taking off this summer. He will leave his walker and walk across the floor. As long as he has an end in mind he will just take off. In May of 2018, he took as many as 21 independent steps in his preschool classroom with his physical therapist. (Independent meaning without a walker, crutches or even mommy's hand--all by himself.) Throughout the summer he just got more and more brave, walking all over the house.
By July 17, 2018 Rayden took 30 steps at Uncle Jeffery and Aunt Katie's house in Alabama.
On Sept. 30, 2018 he took 29 steps at church.
By July 17, 2018 Rayden took 30 steps at Uncle Jeffery and Aunt Katie's house in Alabama.
On Sept. 30, 2018 he took 29 steps at church.
By Oct. 3, 2018 Rayden was taking 66 steps! He didn't have to have an end in mind. He was so confident in himself that he would turn, stop, and go again.
Friday, July 13, 2018
July 10, 2018 "First Dental Appointment"
Rayden loves to brush his teeth and was super excited to go to the dentist. We had been practicing all week. He would open wide, let me look in his mouth with a flash light and count his teeth with the fork. I thought he was ready. At first he didn't want to sit in the chair because it was covered in plastic. We told him it was so they didn't get toothpaste on it. He liked Brandy's glasses with the flashlight attached and allowed her to count his teeth. He even allowed her to use the little mirror. Everything was going smoothly until he noticed Brandy Denning, the dental hygienist, had gloves on. Then he started screaming for her to take them off. I told her the story of the time he wouldn't go into the MRI until the technician took off the gloves. {April 19, 2018 "Optic Nerve MRI #2} We believe he has a phobia of these gloves. (If you have them on, you're going to hurt me.) I tried to sit with him but he just wouldn't calm down. Brandy didn't want to make his first dental visit a traumatic one so she didn't try to clean his teeth. She told Dr. William Parker to come in and meet his new patient, but WITHOUT gloves! Dr. Parker was more than willing to make this a happy visit for Rayden so he took off his gloves.
Rayden opened his mouth so wide and allowed him to count all his teeth using the mirror. Dr. Parker said Rayden has plenty of space in his mouth for permanent teeth and he could tell that he brushes his teeth because they look so shiny.
Rayden got some children's toothpaste and was able to pick out a green toothbrush (his favorite color). He even got to pick a treat (green fish) from the treasure box. Overall I would say this first dental visit was a success. He was able to explore the dental office, see Mommy's x-ray's on the tv screen, and meet some wonderful new people. Brandy has always said that Rayden is a "Ray of sunshine."
Rayden got some children's toothpaste and was able to pick out a green toothbrush (his favorite color). He even got to pick a treat (green fish) from the treasure box. Overall I would say this first dental visit was a success. He was able to explore the dental office, see Mommy's x-ray's on the tv screen, and meet some wonderful new people. Brandy has always said that Rayden is a "Ray of sunshine."
Monday, June 25, 2018
June 22, 2018 "Surgery #10-Strabismus"
We have been watching and waiting for this surgery for quite some time. We have been patching Rayden's eye 4 hours a day for about two years now trying to strengthen his eye muscles. With this surgery, HOPEFULLY, he will no longer have to do patch therapy and his eyes will stop giving mixed visual signals to his brain.
We checked in at UNC around 7:30am. Dr. Sara Grace came out to say hi around 7:45 and give Rayden a little smiley face beside each eye. (Markings for surgery)
Around 8:30 they took us back to pre-op where we changed Rayden into some cute PJ's and spoke with nurses and anesthesiologists. Rayden has such a super social personality and just continued to talk to everyone. The only time he got upset was when the nurses had to put three different kinds of eye drops into his eyes. It took two nurses and both parents to hold him down. After that, Rayden was a little fearful and clingy. Although this is Rayden's 10th surgery, it was a very different experience for us; maybe because of his age. The nurses brought in some stickers and smelly rubs so he could decorate his gas mask hoping to alleviate his anxiety.
Around 9:30am they allowed me to get all dressed up and carry him into the operating room. After some introductions Rayden and I sat in a little chair beside the bed. All the nurses and docs smelled Rayden's strawberry flavored gas mask before hooking it up to the machine. I held Rayden in my lap and he was asked to blow through the mask to blow up a green balloon. He did, but quickly got a taste of the medicine and didn't want the mask anymore. I had to forcefully hold it onto his face for about a minute, although it seemed like an eternity. As soon as he drifted off to sleep they took him out of my lap and laid him onto the table. Dr. Grace walked over and hugged me tightly. When I looked up she was crying too, saying "You did great, Mom. I couldn't have done that!" She walked me out to the waiting room and hugged me again reassuring me that she would take care of Rayden.
Michael, Nanny Linda, Nanny Jane and myself went to get some breakfast in the cafeteria just to kill some time. This surgery was expected to take 2 1/2 hours. When we returned to the waiting room we sat staring at his number on the board waiting for it to change colors. It took the entire 2 1/2 hours!! At 12:00 Rayden was finally in recovery. Dr. Grace came out to tell us that the surgery went very well. She stated that she took pictures of his optic nerves before surgery. They remained swollen as seen in the pictures she has taken several different times this year already. (See previous posts for more info.)
During the surgery she noticed that the muscles that pull the eye upward were very tight so she moved them back. She also moved the muscles that pull the eye outward. So two muscles on both eyes. (If you look at the photo of him in his stroller you will see his left eye is looking upward while his right eye is looking outward.) Dr. Grace stated that his eyes may be very sensitive to light so he will need to wear sunglasses. He may have bloody tears for a couple of days, and red eyes for two weeks. He has tiny dissolvable stitches on the white part of his eyes. He should only need tylenol and/or motrin, and some antibiotic ointment. We can not get water in eyes for the next two weeks either. Dr. Grace said this may not be a perfect solution, our goal is to improve eye wondering by 80%. I pray we do not have to do this again and that God's mighty hand makes it 100%!
When I went to see Rayden in the recovery room they had already taken the breathing tube out, thank God! He was crying out in pain so the nurse gave him fentanyl in his IV and some oral oxycodone. He continued to cry out every now and again but only for a minute or two tops, then off to sleep again. It was terrible watching tears of blood flow from his eyes down his cheeks. I felt so helpless. I prayed for God to take the pain away from my baby. He held my hand, gritted his teeth, and squeezed my finger the entire two hour drive home. I believe God heard my prayer because he continued to sleep the remainder of the evening and all night!
Saturday morning when he got up he was ready to eat and play, although he didn't really want to open his eyes much. We kept the house as dark as possible. He began getting some swelling later in the evening and I got concerned but it eventually went down as well. The white parts of his eyes remain blood shot, but at least he is no longer crying bloody tears. He will not allow us to put the ointment into his eyes so I pray he doesn't get an infection.
We checked in at UNC around 7:30am. Dr. Sara Grace came out to say hi around 7:45 and give Rayden a little smiley face beside each eye. (Markings for surgery)
Around 8:30 they took us back to pre-op where we changed Rayden into some cute PJ's and spoke with nurses and anesthesiologists. Rayden has such a super social personality and just continued to talk to everyone. The only time he got upset was when the nurses had to put three different kinds of eye drops into his eyes. It took two nurses and both parents to hold him down. After that, Rayden was a little fearful and clingy. Although this is Rayden's 10th surgery, it was a very different experience for us; maybe because of his age. The nurses brought in some stickers and smelly rubs so he could decorate his gas mask hoping to alleviate his anxiety.
Around 9:30am they allowed me to get all dressed up and carry him into the operating room. After some introductions Rayden and I sat in a little chair beside the bed. All the nurses and docs smelled Rayden's strawberry flavored gas mask before hooking it up to the machine. I held Rayden in my lap and he was asked to blow through the mask to blow up a green balloon. He did, but quickly got a taste of the medicine and didn't want the mask anymore. I had to forcefully hold it onto his face for about a minute, although it seemed like an eternity. As soon as he drifted off to sleep they took him out of my lap and laid him onto the table. Dr. Grace walked over and hugged me tightly. When I looked up she was crying too, saying "You did great, Mom. I couldn't have done that!" She walked me out to the waiting room and hugged me again reassuring me that she would take care of Rayden.
Michael, Nanny Linda, Nanny Jane and myself went to get some breakfast in the cafeteria just to kill some time. This surgery was expected to take 2 1/2 hours. When we returned to the waiting room we sat staring at his number on the board waiting for it to change colors. It took the entire 2 1/2 hours!! At 12:00 Rayden was finally in recovery. Dr. Grace came out to tell us that the surgery went very well. She stated that she took pictures of his optic nerves before surgery. They remained swollen as seen in the pictures she has taken several different times this year already. (See previous posts for more info.)
During the surgery she noticed that the muscles that pull the eye upward were very tight so she moved them back. She also moved the muscles that pull the eye outward. So two muscles on both eyes. (If you look at the photo of him in his stroller you will see his left eye is looking upward while his right eye is looking outward.) Dr. Grace stated that his eyes may be very sensitive to light so he will need to wear sunglasses. He may have bloody tears for a couple of days, and red eyes for two weeks. He has tiny dissolvable stitches on the white part of his eyes. He should only need tylenol and/or motrin, and some antibiotic ointment. We can not get water in eyes for the next two weeks either. Dr. Grace said this may not be a perfect solution, our goal is to improve eye wondering by 80%. I pray we do not have to do this again and that God's mighty hand makes it 100%!
When I went to see Rayden in the recovery room they had already taken the breathing tube out, thank God! He was crying out in pain so the nurse gave him fentanyl in his IV and some oral oxycodone. He continued to cry out every now and again but only for a minute or two tops, then off to sleep again. It was terrible watching tears of blood flow from his eyes down his cheeks. I felt so helpless. I prayed for God to take the pain away from my baby. He held my hand, gritted his teeth, and squeezed my finger the entire two hour drive home. I believe God heard my prayer because he continued to sleep the remainder of the evening and all night!
Saturday morning when he got up he was ready to eat and play, although he didn't really want to open his eyes much. We kept the house as dark as possible. He began getting some swelling later in the evening and I got concerned but it eventually went down as well. The white parts of his eyes remain blood shot, but at least he is no longer crying bloody tears. He will not allow us to put the ointment into his eyes so I pray he doesn't get an infection.
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